Resolve or Dissolve Conflict? You Choose

Want to stimulate your own economic conditions? Dissolve conflict today!

Even when we theoretically resolve conflict we still have the economic and energy drain. Income and revenue will also go down the drain.

Dissolving conflict actually energizes all parties and strengthens connections. How does dissolving conflict actually work? It's not rocket science, I assure you.

First, let's focus on the conventional wisdom which is to resolve conflict. When you attempt to resolve conflict at least one party (either me or you) is most often left with a feeling of resignation. A sense that I was the one to give in. This results in a tiny chink in my connection with my colleague, my customer or my employee. That chink can fester for the rest of my life!

If you dissolve the conflict, the resignation never occurs. No energy drains. No chinks in your connections. When we can dissolve the conflict we can actually energize our connections with our colleagues, our customers and our employees. Out of these connections synergy occurs. Out of the synergy, creativity, innovation and profits flow. Not only can we positively impact the bottom line, we can help everybody sleep better at night.

So...how does this actually work? Pretty simple. Just look for 2 things: Where is the other person adding value to your organization, situation or bottom line. Once you are clear on this value, share this with the other party. It has to be genuine or the conflict or competing agendas will only get worse. People, like animals, can read our energy and if we are disingenuous, it will get sniffed out quickly and it won't be pretty.

After that, the key is to take 150% responsibility for the conflict. How do we do that? When it's so easy to rationalize, justify, explain, blame and defend, this can be tough. However, it's the key. Look for your role in the mis-communication, the breakdown, the frustrating situation.

To learn more about this amazing process that The Halpin Companies has used with clients all over the globe for 15 years, follow this blog.